The Wedding Series – Wedding Gift Giving Formula

“Maybe the pickle fork in her pattern is part of the dream
we all have when we get married…
until then the pickle fork is great for picking the lock
on a bathroom dor (sic)
when the kids lock themselves in.”
~ Erma Bombeck, Nevada Daily Mail, October 7, 1985  

As both the vintage graphic and quote indicate, wedding guests have given — and brides and grooms have received — some interesting gifts over the generations. Some have been expected and some quite unexpected. There are the long-running jokes about the wedding couple receiving a half-dozen blenders or bun warmers, or that hideous vase from Great Aunt Ernestine that lives on the closet shelf except when it’s hauled out and given a place of honor when she comes to visit!


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Women’s History Month – The Long, Long Road to Equal Pay – in 2152

“I do not demand equal pay for any women save those who do equal work in value. Scorn to be coddled by your employers; make them understand that you are in their service as workers, not as women.” ~ Susan B. Anthony, ca 1868  We sought justice because equal pay for equal work is an … Continue reading Women’s History Month – The Long, Long Road to Equal Pay – in 2152

Election 2016 – Heartbreak and Grace in Defeat

“The greatest test of courage on earth
is to bear defeat without losing heart.”
~ Robert Green Ingersoll

Defeat is heartbreaking and painful whether you lose a horse race, an election, a job, a lover or miss a great opportunity. For those who supported and volunteered for Hillary Clinton over the past year and a half as I did, last Tuesday’s loss was just that. So what do you do when your dream turns into a nightmare?

The Wedding Series – Vendor Tipping Tips

To tip, or not to tip: that is the question.
Whether ’tis better in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outraged vendors,
Or simply to bite the bullet and shell out a sea of cash.
~ Parody of Hamlet’s Famous Soliloquy


Of all the etiquette topics that crop up in our lives tipping is one of the most frustrating and confusing. And we Americans seem to have created this tangled web. Many countries, such as Japan and Brazil, do not observe this custom; but it should be noted that some countries that do not observe tipping, per se, do build into their prices a gratuity. Likewise, tipping in the U.K. is not as widespread as in the U.S., although American tourists are apparently influencing tipping patterns there. 

The Wedding Series – Double Weddings


“Here come the lovers, full of joy and mirth.”
(Enter lovers Lysander, Demetrius, Hermia, And Helena)
~ Thesius, A Midsummer Night’s Dream,  Act 5, Scene 1


William Shakespeare seemed to find joy in double weddings, as he wrote about them at least thrice, in A Midsummer Night’s Dream, Much Ado About Nothing and Twelfth Night. A double wedding also was the focus of the 1937 romantic film comedy, Double Wedding, starring William Powell and Myrna Loy of the Thin Man movie series fame. And remember the achingly romantic double wedding in Pride and Prejudice

The Wedding Series – More On Gifts

“Wedding gifts may be practical or fanciful, inexpensive or extravagant,
but each one represents the giver’s hapiness for the bride and groom.”
~ Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette – 6th Edition 2014
by Anna Post and Lizzie Post

I’ve written about gifts in The Wedding Series a few times, i.e., Gift Registries, Wedding Gift-Giving Formula and The Bridal Shower; but it’s an important topic to revisit. 

Whether the gift is for the engagement; shower; wedding; or gifts of appreciation to the wedding attendants, party hosts, officiant or others, it is important that both recipients and givers observe the etiquette involved, underlying which are respect, consideration, kindness and empathy. Thus, I’d like to reiterate some past advice add some new thoughts.

The Wedding Series – The Bachelorette Party


Last Girlfriend Fling Before She Wears A Wedding Ring

Unlike the bachelor party, which has been around for centuries, the bachelorette party is a fairly recent development, in line with the Western world’s evolution of women’s equality over the last few centuries (although we women still have a long way to go, baby!). And why shouldn’t women celebrate their last single days just as men have always done? No reason at all.